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Trans/Sex: In 2019, I learned why Pride isn’t Pride without kink
It’s not Pride if it doesn’t have leather.

While waiting for meds at a queer clinic earlier this year, I bumped into a New York queen who has been part of the gay community for longer than I’ve been alive. He told me fondly about walking on the High Line and hanging out with gays and trans girls and sex workers long before it became a tourist trap. And then he told me about cruising in the East Village and how queers would literally fuck in the streets during the ’70s.

I think about that queen a lot, in part because his East Village is not my East Village. Today, it’s filled with college kids and six-figure transplants who get plastered at bars with nary a queer in sight. It’s not just Manhattan that’s seen upheaval: Queer sex and desire, too, have been pushed out of the streets and solely into our bedrooms.

Earlier this June, the queer community was caught in an argument over whether open sexual expression belongs at Pride. I’m sure we’ll have the same fight in 2020 as we did in 2019. But this year, I experimented with the queer community’s leather roots. And I know for certain that Pride without kink is no Pride at all.

Some people discovered sex through an adult ad or a stray Pornhub URL, but I actively sought out fetishism when I was young. An internet connection and an AOL Kids account gave me access to all sorts of fantasy fetish material: macrophilia, vore, transformation fetishes, inflation, hypnosis, anthro characters, you name it. Over 10 years later, many of those fetishes stay with me, and it’s undeniable that kink played a major role in how I became who I am today. Despite the online experimentation, I was relatively unfamiliar with leather until recently.


In August, I read femme leatherdyke DaemonumX’s personal essay for Autostraddle on mourning the end of a D/s relationship. Her two-part episode on Tina Horn’s podcast Why Are People Into That? introduced me to the leatherdyke world. For her, being a femme leatherdyke means she defines her sexuality “primarily as a lesbian who engages in BDSM as a lifestyle,” she told Tattoodo earlier this year.

“The leatherdyke community specifically really emerged in head-on conflict with mainstream sex-negative second-wave feminism, which opposed things like sexual roles, S/M, penetrative sex, etc. Mainstream lesbian feminists shunned and attempted to censor leatherdykes by hurling accusations of colluding with the patriarchy and replicating heterosexuality,” she told the Daily Dot. “Because of this, leatherdykes have always had a strong sense of community, being public about desires and shirking respectability.”

The term “leather” is a bit of a misnomer: You don’t necessarily have to love leather to join the community, let alone use and own the real stuff (vegan leather is more than welcome). Writer, leatherdyke, and self-described “bottom royalty” Chingy Nea boils the term down to “a certain brand of woman loving woman who considers hedonism, kink, and fetish to be a core tenant of their identity and how they relate to other dykes.” In Nea’s case, female-domination porn helped her come out as gay, but she found mainstream queer culture largely rejected her kinky sexual desires.

“I wanted spaces to feel not tolerated but accepted and loved for my depraved erotic desires (which didn’t always include sex, but also other forms of erotic intimacy) and so I surrounded myself with other kinky dykes as friends, partners, and lovers,” Nea told me. “I think community in BDSM is also incredibly vital because it’s a lifestyle that involves practices that are dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing, and that goes double for queer women, who rarely get chances to see women like them being unabashedly hedonistic, practicing it.”

DaemonumX keeps the scene’s history alive with the curation of her zine Fist, an homage to the ’80s leatherdyke community, complete with writers documenting stories, life, and beliefs within and around the leatherdyke community. That work is more important than ever: The reformist push for LGBT tolerance (intentionally sans “Q”) means boring catchphrases like “love is love” and “born this way” encourage normativity. The radical sexual, non-monogamous, and whore-friendly politics that defined the ’70s and ’80s have been replaced with Pete Buttigieg and Ellen DeGenres. I may be tolerated for being a trans lesbian, but my identity as a sex worker, my anarchist values, my open relationship status, and my perverted politics aren’t welcome in many LGBT spaces.

Leather turns this on its head: It’s not just about accepting your own kinks but taking a nonjudgmental approach to your fellow queers’ erotic desires. It challenges your values, teaches you new ways of engaging in intimate relationships, encourages you to question how you perceive sexual intimacy, and forces you to do the inner work you need around boundaries. Leather is not without its flaws, of course. There is drama, shitty people, and desirability politics, just like any other community. But it’s an antidote to the squeaky clean Mayor Petes of the world trying to wipe away any sense of radical politics from our community.

“There is another overlap I have seen with the popularity of social justice language without a critical framework and the idea of [queer] inclusivity [as] every space has to be for everyone, feel safe and inclusive for everyone, and no one can ever be made uncomfortable,” DaemonumX said. “For example, opponents to kink/leather at Pride often make the argument that it alienates people on the ace spectrum by making queerness always about sex. They forget that we exist as we do today because our literal sex acts have been criminalized, so of course it’s about sex. Should we stop educating about HIV because it makes queerness seem like it’s all about sex?”

Pride is a sticking point in the LGBTQ community because, in theory, it’s supposed to be the heart and soul of the queer community. In reality, we are extremely divided over Pride. There are conformists who eagerly welcome corporate marketing. There are queers who want a more radical march. And then there are people who are skeptical of capitalism but want queers to self-censor themselves by keeping their leather at home and their leashes in the garage. After the latter group came out swinging this year, Nea argued for Them that excluding queer leather culture at Pride would “ignore the contributions of communities that were integral to uplifiting some of the most marginalized subsets of the LGBTQ+ community.”

“Demanding spaces to conform to your specific preferences because you are uncomfortable with something is not the same as making spaces change because you are unsafe. There is a dangerous conflation,” Nea told me. “Sometimes we get triggered by things and it sucks, but it’s our responsibility to work through our trauma and not demand other people change how they live when they actually aren’t harming anyone by being sexual or erotic with each other.”

As Sarah Schulman argues in Conflict is Not Abuse, trauma responses and supremacist responses tend to mirror each other with defensiveness and black-and-white thinking that targets difference. That means feeling uncomfortable isn’t always a trauma response; it can also be a form of bigotry. For example, Patrick Califia’s essay “Public Sex” argues that adults’ hang-ups around sex cause children to feel frightened and confused by their own sexual feelings. Meanwhile, exposure to sex parties made Califia comfortable with his body and proved healing for his inner child.

“Seeing other people having sex is reassuring and enlightening,” Califia writes. “It calmed the panic I’ve been carrying around ever since I first heard my parents fucking and thought they must be murdering each other. I like the way other people look when they’re getting turned on or coming. That means I must look good, too. That means it’s OK for me to relax and let myself enjoy my body.”

Much like Califia and Nea, I came into queerness being told not to be too horny because embracing my perverted desires wasn’t a good look. But exposure to leather taught me to accept my perversions and immerse myself in them. Going to a leatherdyke party felt liberating, like being in a room of queers in sexual harmony with each other. That’s because being a leatherdyke is about feeling a sense of community. To become one, I needed exposure to leatherdykes like DaemonumX and Nea who showed me how I could openly embrace my kinky desires both off- and online.

“Seeking out these educators, paying them for their labor, uplifting their work, and helping to bring them to offline spaces—especially with the increased surveillance and censorship that queer, kinky, and QTPOC experience via online platforms—help to continue validating this work as well. And trust me, it’s needed,” sex educator and business coach Cameron told me. “Also fighting to preserve physical spaces that connect the history with our future—books, zines, play spaces—all create safer environments for this history and communities to be upheld, too.”

DaemonumX said that when we silence certain queer voices for being kinky, messy, and non-normative, “we become just like the cops.”

“It’s really important to remind folks of our history whenever this discourse circles back around,” she said. “When we separate queerness from sex and sexuality, we ignore the ways in which we have been systemically oppressed for the sex we have, we ignore all the lives lost to the AIDS epidemic, and we sanitize our culture just to make a few people feel more included.”
>[list of deranged fetishes] Over 10 years later, many of those fetishes stay with me, and it’s undeniable that kink played a major role in how I became who I am today
Oh wow You don't say
 

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In August, I read femme leatherdyke DaemonumX’s personal essay for Autostraddle on mourning the end of a D/s relationship. Her two-part episode on Tina Horn’s podcast Why Are People Into That? introduced me to the leatherdyke world. For her, being a femme leatherdyke means she defines her sexuality “primarily as a lesbian who engages in BDSM as a lifestyle,” she told Tattoodo earlier this year.

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The term “leather” is a bit of a misnomer: You don’t necessarily have to love leather to join the community, let alone use and own the real stuff (vegan leather is more than welcome).
This is giving me suspicion that the term "dyke" might also be a bit of a misnomer.
 

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>[list of deranged fetishes] Over 10 years later, many of those fetishes stay with me, and it’s undeniable that kink played a major role in how I became who I am today
Oh wow You don't say
I can't even begin to unpack all the degeneracy that's going on here.
Remember the "gays eat da poo poo" dude? Yeah, I'm starting to think he might have had a point.
 

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Valens made a Twitter thread about the very creepy topic of loli and shota. I'll spare you the images, you can look at the non-archived version if you're morbidly curious.

"So, take a look at this panel. What do you see?

If you guessed an adult cis woman, you would be wrong. It's Z3 from KanColle in Asanagi's parody yaoi hentai manga Danke Dankei Revolution. Z3 is based on the Type 1934 destroyer the Z3 Max Schultz, a German destroyer used and sunk during World War II.

There's a tweet going around suggesting the ahegao hoodie has child porn on it and that the central face on the hoodie is a "boy depicted as younger than ten." But is that true? KanColle never definitively states their age. The real Z3 launched in 1935 and sunk by 1940.

It's difficult to accurately pinpoint what is/isn't an underage character, in part because so much of it is subjective. It's obvious that adult illustrations of canon-based iterations of Bart Simpson or Rugrats characters sexualize children, but DDR is different.

Here are four depictions of characters from KanColle. Two appear as genderbent iterations in the DDR manga. Are all four of them adults? Just one? Only two? Three out of four? It's really difficult to tell from the start, in part because they all have different bodies.

Shimakaze, the bottom fourth, is easily the most popular KanColle character and appears within the hentai manga as a peer of Z3's. But also! Most figurines depict her as an adult character, complete with an hourglass figure and breasts. You could argue Z3 is an adult tomboy too.

DDR genderbends both characters and turns them into femboys. It's somewhat ambiguous whether they are of age or below. They're tall, but tiny compared to the colossal bara admiral. They have small frames, but they have obvious adult cis male genitals. This is no Bart Simpson

So let's go back to the panel. What do you see? A definitive depiction of an underage child? If you're like me, your first thought was probably: Damn, that cis woman must have an ass that just won't quit and is getting fucked really good, I'm jealous @[email protected]

The ambiguity here is key. Figuring out what is/isn't illustrated, sexual depictions of children is incredibly subjective. One person may consider aged-up Voltron and Boku no Hero porn to be "child porn." Another person might read DDR and think everyone is 18+

This is a common problem with categorizing sexual material in part because sex is so stigmatized in our culture to begin with. Then factor in material from outside of the west, and yes, it becomes *very* difficult to definitively categorize media as "porn" or "child porn."

I can't definitively tell you whether Danke Dankei Revolution fits the legal criteria of simulated child porn. But if a sex writer like myself cannot, a random Twitter user certainly couldn't. I'm skeptical of such authoritative claims on such a complicated subject.

Very few Twitter users thought this was an androgynous femboy of questionable age. Which begs the question: can this image be remixed, reinterpreted, and recreated to create new art? Is it inherently constrained to its roots? Can it be remade into something new?

This might seem silly to write about over an ahegao hoodie, but think about how this impacts other controversial erotic clothing, like blasphemy kink wear. Think about how this strict policing of what is/isn't morally acceptable impacts kinky queers and who it benefits the most

Plus: think about how we conceive adulthood and what bodies are considered proper adults. Z3 has a thin frame and small breasts, but so do many adult cis and trans women. Many men, both cis and trans, look "boyish." Some adults experience delayed puberty due to disability

Surprise! Normative, western depictions of bodies usually lead this entire conversation. An adult woman has big breasts and curvy hips. An adult man has lots of muscles. Suddenly, the only acceptable porn features bodies identical to Victoria's Secret models on Broadway.

Think long and hard about how sex is policed through all forms of moral integrity. It's not just a priest that controls how you think. Sometimes it's that one Twitter famous misogynist who rails at anyone looking at aged-up lesbian Voltron porn."

Valens made an apology last night:

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God, what a load of pseudo-intellectual bullshit. He presents it like it's some nuanced take on what society views as acceptable porn and how different cultures can have different norms but because he's a fucking moron, it's just comes off as some half-brained way of defending loli/shota. Like seriously,
So let's go back to the panel. What do you see? A definitive depiction of an underage child? If you're like me, your first thought was probably: Damn, that cis woman must have an ass that just won't quit and is getting fucked really good, I'm jealous @[email protected]
Why would you feel the need to insert something like this into your argument? Could it be because you're a porn-sick loser who does nothing but think about sex all day?

Normative, western depictions of bodies usually lead this entire conversation. An adult woman has big breasts and curvy hips. An adult man has lots of muscles.
Actually in the real world, people come in all shapes and sizes. Being flat as a board doesn't make you less of a woman, having a dad bod doesn't make you less of a man. When people tell you you're not a woman they're not talking about the way your body looks, Ana.

Suddenly, the only acceptable porn features bodies identical to Victoria's Secret models on Broadway.
Bitch, where? Have you ever been on a regular porn site? They have all those different categories because there's no one right type of porn. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. "VS models on Broadway" what does that even mean.

And what the actual fuck is with him and his constant bitching about public sex not being acceptable? It isn't some puritan, heteronormative conspiracy to try and kinkshame the poor innocent gays, it's just basic human decency that what happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom. No one wants to see two complete strangers fuck in public, especially if there's the chance that children could be around. Maybe it gets you off but hey, consider this! You're involving regular people in your kink without their consent and that's fucked up.

This whole thing is Ana trying to seem all smart with his galaxy brain take but he didn't even know what he wanted to say so he ends up going on a big rant that's just full of hot air. Then instead of just apologizing for being a degenerate moron and shutting the fuck up, he goes on another hot air rant that brings up more unrelated shit. Seriously, how does public sex even relate to the initial point of how age is depicted in hentai?

Edit: Also I notice he only ever mentions queer public sex. I bet his opinion on hetero public sex is different.
 
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And what the actual fuck is with him and his constant bitching about public sex not being acceptable? It isn't some puritan, heteronormative conspiracy to try and kinkshame the poor innocent gays, it's just basic human decency that what happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom.
Here's what strikes me as weird about that one. If you want to have sex in front of a live studio audience in 2019 America, it's not actually that hard.

I don't live in the sticks, but neither do I live anywhere near a genuine metropolis, and within about a 90-minute radius of my home I can think of two full on-premise swinger clubs and at least three or four private but welcoming BDSM venues where Valens and a partner of choice could get naked, get kinky, and/or fuck amongst a crowd. All easily found with a Fetlife account, which I'm sure he has.

I mean, does he literally want to be able to strip down and bang in the middle of a sidewalk at high noon? Because as hot as that fantasy may seem to him, the reality is just gonna leave you with a lot of painful scrapes on your ass.
 

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He literally looks the exact same. What a transformation.

Also what the hell is wrong with his eye?
non-joke answer: it's called Strabismus (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strabismus) and he's got a medium/mild case of it. In itself, who cares, not that uncommon. BUT, this is the article that you'll find fascinating:


RESULTS
A mental health disorder was diagnosed for 168 (41.3%) of the 407 patients with a history of childhood strabismus, who were monitored to a mean age of 17.4 years, compared with 125 control subjects (30.7%). Children with exotropia were 3.1 times more likely to develop a psychiatric disorder than were control subjects when monitored to a mean age of 20.3 years. Children with esotropia were no more likely to develop mental illness than were control subjects when monitored for similar periods. Patients with intermittent exotropia also were significantly more likely to have greater numbers of mental health disorders, mental health emergency department visits, and mental health hospitalizations and to have suicidal or homicidal ideation.

CONCLUSIONS
Children diagnosed as having strabismus in this population, especially those with exotropia, were at increased risk for developing mental illness by early adulthood. Patients with intermittent exotropia seemed to he particularly prone to developing significant psychiatric diseases by the third decade of life.

Keywords:
Strabismus, esotropia, exotropia, mental illness, psychiatric disease
As soon as you notice this you'll start putting together all the bat-shit weirdos out there with fucked up eyes and go, huh, well there you go! Never trust the exotropic (lazy-eyed)!
 

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non-joke answer: it's called Strabismus (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strabismus) and he's got a medium/mild case of it. In itself, who cares, not that uncommon. BUT, this is the article that you'll find fascinating:




As soon as you notice this you'll start putting together all the bat-shit weirdos out there with fucked up eyes and go, huh, well there you go! Never trust the exotropic (lazy-eyed)!
So noticed a lot of them have "gummy smiles" or other palete oddities. I wouldn't be surprised if there is also a correlation with soft and hard palate abnormality and autism.
 
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